Re: A fuss about nothing?
Posted by Kayne on April 10, 2021 at 08:09:08
In Reply to: Re: A fuss about nothing? posted by wetimer on April 09, 2021 at 17:08:21:
Thanks for the comments. I would take issue with your first sentence though. I honestly don't see the logic with saying that "we believe you" is not saying that the alleged perpetrator is guilty. If you are saying the alleged perpetrator might not be guilty then you are already admitting that the perceived victim is not telling the truth. You can't have it both ways.
Surely the logic thing to say is that one will investigate, take into account all the evidence and draw a conclusion based on that. Only after the process is complete can one party be a victim. By saying "I believe you" right at the start you are pre-judging the issue and the presumption of guilt about the other party is already there.
I can only go by reports I have seen in the news or read in the press about cases of alleged rape, but there are a number of recent cases where rape has been cried deliberately falsely as a sort of revenge, in some case years after the alleged event or after the "victim" has realised what had they had done and regretted it for some reason, despite being seemingly willing at the time.
I think the idea of "toxic masculinity" has been blown out of all proportion and has become a feminist bandwagon. You only have to see the state of both men and women on the streets of big cities after a night out to realise that both sexes can be pretty toxic. Men have been belittled and denigrated for years as part of the feminist ideology about women's rights and how they never get the same opportunities as men in their careers etc etc.
Don't get me wrong, I'm a 16 year old lad who is increasingly liking girls as I get to know them better and the vast majority are decent people, just the vast majority of the lads I know. I think social media and the dominance of left-wing thinking among teachers has a lot to do with the attitudes of many young people. I'm probably unusual among my peers in not being on Facebook or Twitter and the more I hear about those platforms, the more happy I am about that.
In many ways I think single sex schools are good (no distractions, not so much ill-feeling among one sex about the other sex etc etc) but I do realise that it can be a handicap to relational development, as you sadly discovered, so I am glad our school has found a compromise in having only the older students in mixed classes. Most of the girls in my year are from the local all-girls school and are here by choice or mostly because that school does not offer the A-Level choice that they want to follow. So hopefully us boys will mature correctly and be used to having girls around in time, and be the better adults for it.
Thanks again for voicing your opinions and giving me more insights into this matter. Stay safe.